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Maturing Gender Gap

People often say girls mature more quickly than males. This is a gap that only seems to increase well into the young adult years.


Generally speaking, we could likely agree ( perhaps begrudgingly for some) that women tend to learn how to take care of themselves on a basic level more quickly than men. Scientists at Newcastle University in the UK shows this gap in maturing is in part due to the female sex taking hold of brain optimization earlier than the male sex, thereby leading to earlier skills of survival.

Females begin developing survival tools earlier on. For example, females often learn much earlier on how to cook, which foods are healthier to eat, and what the appropriate things are to wear for different occasions. On the flip side, men tend to lean toward necessity with a getting by mentality.


Historically, this growth among females was done in the home alongside parents and siblings. Now, this development is being delayed to later in life and often into post-college single years.

The social landscape has altered this even more with single parenting and the stronger tendency of maternal responsibility in those cases. In this, females are challenged to even greater levels of maturity and sacrificial love that step outside of the millennial mindset of self-sufficiency and autonomy into caring for another person.

While some men and women remain fixed in their adolescent slow progression of maturity with what I call a fun love survival mindset, many single parents soar to new levels of maturity unknown to others of their sex as a result of such lifestyles.


It should not be surprising that women have become ever more resentful toward men in a time where women have more liberties and have reached new levels of achievement in the workforce as the opposite sex is still ‘catching up’.

In the past, young marriages allowed for a shared presence between spouses in the process of maturity, responsibility, and selflessness through the transformation of two lives meant to serve each other and any subsequent children resulting from their love.

With this in mind, I wonder if the feminist fight for equality has less to do with the longing not for a math equation of precise equality but instead that it points to a struggle between the sexes.

Perhaps what should be discussed are ways to reduce this maturity gap and increase personal growth for each of the sexes.

The single ladies’ party often turns into a resentful separation from the male sex thereby calling for a sisterhood with cause for complaints of injustice.

Could a real solution be channeled toward growth with another person and encouraging one another? Or even setting an example by working to overcome weaknesses, faults, and wounds? Consequently, respect between the sexes would increase and change, if not the social landscape as a whole, the social and personal environment of closest friends and family.

Thanks for reading!

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Timmerie’s recommended reading: Ulta Feminist/Former Bysexual Leader Leaves Feminist Movement 

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